Sunday, September 5, 2010

The Way the Cookie Crumbles

I guess I should have known it wouldn't last.  The New Guy sounded pretty good, right? I thought so - hey - he treated me great, even read my book, I thought we had fun together.  I guess I was the only one having fun.

Last time I saw him, he told me I didn't drink enough and it was an issue for him.  Oh, I'm sure there are a myriad of other things wrong with me, but that was the one he mentioned.  I didn't think it was a deal breaker, I mean - look how fun I am!  Surely I bring some other things to the table (or I guess I should say, to the bar).  I hadn't said anything about his drinking or objected to any of the places we went.  But I might nurse just a glass of wine or two all night - apparently my latest downfall.

We were supposed to go out tonight, but he's been acting different lately, a little distant. One of my GFs suggested I check and see if he had reposted his dating profile - and - yep - he had.

I have to say, I was surprised.  Not about him changing his mind about me - he told me my not drinking was an issue - but I really didn't think he would repost his profile after we agreed to take them down.  I thought he would end things with me first.  Certainly not continue to go out with me until he found someone better.  I even told him about Afghanistan Man doing that exact same thing to me and how much it hurt.  It just takes an e-mail to set someone free before you start looking for someone else.

It's okay - I never, ever want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me.  And I'm never going to be much of a drinker.  But what bothers me is that I can't tell the good guys from the bad guys anymore.   And that makes me sad.

But enough of that!  I reposted my profile and I've already had a dozen or so contacts.  Sooner or later someone will like me for exactly who I am.  Until then, there's aways chocolate!!

Look at these beauties!!  I love Chips Ahoy and adding chunks of Reese's could only make them better:

Damn good - only wish I had a glass of milk to dunk them in.  A match made in heaven.  Why it hasn't been done before, I have no idea.

I LOVE soft cookies and hadn't seen these before:

They are really good, although I think the bag I got was a little overdone.

But if you like soft cookies like me - these are fab!

I told you about the new Bugles - here are caramel:

These are okay - really taste just like sweet Bugles.  (Mike - you were right!)

But THESE - chocolate peanut butter Bugles - these bring it!!! 

Okay, they don't look like much, but they are amazing!  You will be addicted and will be unable to stop eating these.  Don't say I didn't warn you.

I really shouldn't be allowed to leave the house.  This is what I found at Target yesterday:

That's Reese's no bake peanut butter bar mix in the background.  Dear God - how amazing does that sound?  And, the fall candy is starting to hit the shelves!!!  Those are Pumpkin Spice, Candy Corn and Caramel Apple Kisses - yahoo!!!  I've reviewed the first two, but I've never seen Caramel Apple before.

I don't know how the hell they did it, but these taste JUST LIKE caramel apples!  They are really good!  They make me totally ready for fall.  (And it looks like they'll be the only Kisses I'm going to get for a while, so I'm glad they're so damn good.  And, as far as I know, Hershey's Kisses think I rock!)

Motivational takeaways?

There are worse things than being alone.  Being with someone who wants you to be someone else is one of them.

If you have someone in your life who loves you, don't take them for granted!!!  It's so easy to do - we always think the grass is greener and it seldom is.

As long as peanut butter and chocolate are around, we can't be sad!

Here's to fall, the great new products coming out and all my beloved friends who like me just the way I am!  Thank you guys!!!!


Evan Thomas said...

As someone else who doesn't drink, I have to say that's a really lame reason to end it. If you can't love someone more than the drink in your hand, you're just not meant to be with anyone. There are much better fish in the sea who are happy with drinking the water around them if they're truly happy

Denise Ryan said...

Hi Evan! Thanks for your comment and the back up! Maybe there were other issues for him too, but you're right. Thanks so much for your support!!!!

Diane said...

I know you & you're way too good for "guys" like that! There really is a difference between guys. & men. We love you for who you are...big personality and all. :)

Denise Ryan said...

Diane - you are the best - thanks so much!!!!! I love you too!!

Kris, in New England said...

Denise - I suspect that Clueless Man has a drinking problem that he knows about but won't fully acknowledge, so he figures if his girlfriend drinks alot it will cover up his excessive behavior.

All of which means - you deserve better.

Oh and the Chocolate Bugles - Oh Dear Lord I MUST HAVE THEM.

Anonymous said...

I've met Denise (she was my very first date !) and I was kind of surprised when I saw her profile on match that she would have trouble meeting someone but I was shocked when I actually met her person as she was pretty spectacular, brains, beauty and personality and I can't imagine any guy with half a brain in his head not being interested in her let alone, passing her up for a drink !
She's going to make some guy a very lucky man, when she bumps into the right one

Denise Ryan said...

Kris - thanks for the support! You really are awesome! And let me know when you try the Bugels - they are amazing!!!!

Denise Ryan said...

Wow Anonymous - thanks so much!!!!! That is very, very sweet!!!

David R. Lindquist said...

Denise, that poor fellow has some things to work out, and I think the best advice I can give him is to read (and truly *read*) your book again. You're the best! -DRL

Denise Ryan said...

No David - you're the best!!!!!

Thanks so much for your support as always!!!!!!!

jeff said...

Denise, Sorry about just getting to read this, and sorry about how the relationship went south. As I've said before, you're just too strong for most men. And so they'll trot out any excuse, regardless how lame, for weaseling out.

Consider how great it is that you learned how rationality-challenged he is relatively early in the process. It coulda been much worse, no?

Raise a glass to surviving another loser!


Denise Ryan said...

Ha, ha - Jeff - thanks for the great advice and the laugh! You're terrific!