Monday, July 12, 2010

How to Have the Best Summer EVAH!! (Part Two)

Hope you had a great weekend!! More tips:

5.) It’s summer, make lemonade! Life is going to give you lemons, I guarantee it. What you do with them is what impacts your happiness. Back in 2006, after a breakup, I was sad, but there was nothing I could do about it. I could throw a pity party (two of my last standing single girlfriends got engaged around the same time) or I could make lemonade. I decided to use this as the catalyst to finally book my trip to Australia. Living well is the best route to happiness. Something bad happens, you plan something good.

6.) Don’t put your eggs in someone else’s basket. Waiting for your spouse, boss, child to do something to make you happy? This is a bad strategy. I usually do something nice for myself on Valentine’s Day (see #5), but last year I had a boyfriend, so I figured he would do something. When he didn’t, I was sad and disappointed. If I had been responsible for my own happiness, I would have had a great Valentine’s Day. Most folks have enough trouble with their own eggs in their own baskets. Look after your own eggs and you’ll have a better shot at happiness.

7.) Just do it! Often our unhappiness is caused by something we could fix – a job we could leave, a relationship we could end, a pile of clutter we could clean up, debt we could pay off, etc. But we’d rather agonize over it, worry about it, and let it steal our joy. Sometimes the best course of action is to suck it up and deal with it. Sit down one weekend and clean up the clutter or map out a plan to start paying off the debt and then do it. If you don’t, choosing instead the short term pleasure of doing something else or buying something else, the situation usually gets worse and you’re more unhappy. Sometimes you have to trade short term pleasure for long term happiness.

And finally, remember that happiness means different things to different people – for some it may be spending time with family, for some it may mean travel, for some work. Know what it means for you and strive to add more of it in your life.

Like chocolate. Always more chocolate!

4 comments:

Sunny said...

"Sometimes you have to trade short term pleasure for long term happiness."

Wow thank you for that! This is one of my utmost struggles in life--giving up short term pleasure for long term happiness. In the world of instant gratification that I grew up in, it's easy to lose sight of the big picture.

Denise Ryan said...

Sunny - you and me both, GF! If I could only practice what I preach a little better!! (Having all this chocolate around makes it tough!) : )

Kris, in New England said...

A friend of mine uses this as her life statement:

When you choose to stop surviving your life, you begin living it.

It is all about the choices we make - and choosing to make our own happiness just makes good sense.

Denise Ryan said...

Kris - LOVE that statement!!!! Thanks so much for sharing it!!